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Daily Lemon : Life Isn't Fair

It was drilled into my mind growing up that life isn't fair. My go to argument was that it should be. Unfortunately saying that it should be wasn't good enough.  

Life isn't fair, I never really got that concept until I hit 18 years old. I didn't have the easiest life before that but it wasn't as bad as it could have been. What really made me grasp the concept was my first sexual harassment in the workplace experience. 

I was one of those girls who was sexually harassed from the time I was 7. I know, seems absolutely ridiculous. What was different about it happening when I was 18? Well that would have been the workplace aspect of it. I've had it happen at church, but at least I could threaten to tell my parents or my brothers would come to my rescue. It would happen with people that I grew up around, but then again at least to could tell my parents. What's different about the workplace is I had to learn to be my own rescuer.

You learn to use a backbone you didn't know you had. You learn to say no and fight back if necessary. Then you learn how to remove yourself from the situation, but no one deserves to feel attacked or unsafe. 

Life isn't fair, not one bit. It wasn't fair for me to feel attacked, it wasn't fair that I've had to deal with stuff like this for so long, it's not fair that I still do to this day. 

I was engaged, harassments didn't stop. I changed jobs, harassments didn't stop. I stopped wearing make up and clothes that made me feel beautiful, harassments didn't stop.

Life isn't fair in so many ways, this is just one. It's a lesson that everyone learns in different ways at different times in their lives. This was just mine. I grew from it. I'm stronger physically and mentally because of it, which is all you can ask for from Life's Lemons. You can still make Lemonade.

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